We all have that voice in our head.
That voice of doubt and negativity, that inner critic.
Especially when we want to do something new, going out of our comfort zone, when we’re in a transition.

Sometimes we want to fight that voice. We want it to go away.
But, spoiler alert, that voice will never go away. That voice probably stays with you for the rest of your life, if you start doing new things, if you keep stepping into the unknown and if you keep growing.
Being authentic, vulnerable and open… being your real self, it can be scary.
And this voice will throw all sort of things at you:
– You can’t do this
– Everyone will hate you
– You’re not good enough
– You will loose everything
– How can you be so stupid

Etcetera etcetera.
But you can choose to listen to this voice. You don’t have to listen to this voice. Let it be there, but move your attention to possibilities and faith instead.
This voice is not you. This voice is made of voices from other people or things you’ve picked up on the way. This is a voice based on previous experiences. But if you’re not in real danger (which is 99% of the times the case), this is not the real truth. And even if the voice is right the first time or even the second time, this doesn’t mean anything for the future. Believing this voice so strongly will actually make it reality, or there will be a much higher chance. Choosing to believe otherwise, will bring you further. It will suprise and amaze you and make you grow.

If you have a strong inner feeling that you do want something, but this voice is in the way, then you have the power to decide to leave this voice on the side and do it anyway.
This doesn’t mean you have to fight the voice, you simple “say” to this voice: “Thank you for helping me, thank you for protecting me. But this time I’m not going to listen. This time I am going to show you that it’s going to be allright. It might be scary, but I’m safe. Everything is going to be allright.”

Your inner critic is a voice that you can detach from. You can watch it, observe it, but don’t get engaged with it. Meditation is a great tool to observe these thoughts and create some distance and use your free will to choose otherwise. I created a name for my inner critic, to create even more distance. My inner critic is Harry. So if I feel Harry coming up, and he can be strong, I say “Harry, it’s okay. I trust myself, I can do this. You stay there and do your thing. I come back to you when I need you. Thank you.”